Do I want my ex a happy birthday?

Do I want my ex a happy birthday, right? Good question. I think the answer should be based on half of the answer to the question you must ask yourself: "Is my ex hates me".

If you think your ex's birthday in advance, would send a card. Send a card communicates positive things about you. He said: "I have my act together, and I planned ahead." And he said, "I'm not desperate to talk to you." It makes you look like you are in control. 

You probably have a pretty good idea of ​​how you feel about your ex. If, as you are honest with yourself, you have to admit that you hate your ex, then the answer is no, you do not want your ex a happy birthday. In fact, you should not call your ex at all, until you have reason to believe that the hateful feelings have changed. Say happy birthday to an ex who hates you and do not want to hear from you is a way to achieve together again, if that's what you need. 

If today is the anniversary of your ex (or there is no time to send a paper map), and you're likely to see your ex in person when you are just after your regular schedule, happy birthday as you have the chance. Otherwise you an SMS or an e-mail, e-card, or call. 

Call is difficult, but because you just want a ring. If your answers eg, good, but if not, please leave a message. Even if you know your ex will not start viewing messages, leave a message anyway, because it is the only contact that you get it. If you hang up without a message, you can not call back because you do not want your ex to think you have more than once. 

But otherwise, yes - go ahead and wish you happy birthday ex. Just do not do it in a way that is too aggressive. For example, do not show anywhere in the house of your ex, just to say happy birthday. Do not use birthday of an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend's birthday as an opportunity to stem.

Only you can decide whether it is worth calling a chance for a real conversation with your ex to have. If you have not talked to your ex in a long time, then calling is probably the possibility of your ex is not answering the phone, but knowing that you called. 

Call more than once makes you look desperate. So leave a message and we hope that you will respond. If you answer, I believe you "late" card, instead of sending the call again.